I’ve noticed quite a bit of hits from keywords referring to abuse. This is, unfortunately, a common problem, and people need to find help. There are also many hits from keywords referring to narcissistic or borderline personality disorders, disorders which often lead to abusive behaviors. So I will make a series of posts from my webpage on abuse, which gathers together links I have found most helpful. I have them arranged by category. The first part is on the general topic of abuse. The last section of the webpage, my own personal abuse stories, has already been posted here.
Stopping Abuse/ Helping Abused Friend, Family Member, Co-worker, Child
Safety Planning–Extensive Guide
StealthGenie: Your abuser could use this to stalk your every move via your cell phone, so be aware
Domestic Violence Handbook (though it does concern me how much this focuses on women as victims and men as abusers, when it’s often the other way around, or mutual)
But since Karen’s death, I have learned that it’s all right to say to your friend, “I don’t think your partner is treating you well.” That’s being a good friend (Liz Welch, Redbook Magazine, You May Think Domestic Violence has Nothing to do with You).
Speaking up about someone else’s abuse, or walking away from your own, is never easy. It takes strength, support, and a courageous spirit. Share your inspiring stories of survival, as well as your experience with a friend or family member who was — or still is — in an abusive relationship. No matter the voice, no matter the story, there is power in sharing our truth. –Redbook Magazine, Time to talk, link no longer works
Reporting child abuse can be difficult on a personal level. You may feel that you are “meddling” in someone else’s affairs, breaking up a family or disrupting people’s lives. However, by reporting suspected child abuse, you are making a difference in the life of a child. Sometimes we have to intervene to stop damaging and destructive behaviors that are being done to people who are weaker or have no voice, no power to stop it. When you step up and take action on behalf of a child in this position, you will not only make a difference in that child’s life, you may also touch the lives of all of the people involved. –Stephanie Partridge, Signs of Emotional Child Abuse
Even if you just suspect that someone is abusing or neglecting a child, report it. If you are afraid to report the suspected abuse or neglect because you might be wrong, do it any way. If you are wrong, you can always apologize. If you are right, you may have saved the life of a child and you have definitely changed the life of a child for the better. As a child, I always wished someone would ask about if I was being sexually abused. I couldn’t voluntarily ask someone for help. I was too afraid. This is true for many children. If you suspect a child is being abused, ask. Please ask. Not all children will tell you the truth, but some will. They, like me, are just waiting for someone to care enough to ask. –Patricia Singleton, Be a Voice for Children–Speak Out About Child Abuse