Month: May 2014

Happy to see my posts on child abuse making a difference

Every day I see the hits come in, and the latest tallies are:

Hitting Kids Upside the Head is Abuse: 784 hits  [Update 5/31/15: 2,961 hits]

Slapping Kids Upside the Head Causes Traumatic Brain Injury: 1,498 hits  [Update 5/31/15: 6,809 hits]

This is good for the soul–knowing that my passion for ending child abuse is making some difference, even if small.  The search terms I see leading to these posts, show that many people have the same concerns I do about kids being slapped upside the head.

Maybe, just maybe, the next generation won’t suffer so much from this blatant physical abuse that threatens their very brains–and could shove them into nearby furniture.

The reason for my passion against this practice, is that I witnessed a frenemy slapping her kid upside the head.  I didn’t speak out then, but I did later on when she joked about it and defended it.  And I speak out now on the Net as well.


My psycho blog stalker trolls are even more psycho stalkery




Yeah….I got the message.

This is only an extremely small portion of what I’ve been seeing lately from one visitor in an unexpected place, far away from here.

An obsessive amount of reading and re-reading posts about my stalkers, for weeks now.

Far more than what readers normally do, no matter how interested.

And WITHOUT ever subscribing to my blog, like my regulars normally do.

Showing a high amount of interest in certain posts, taking far longer than it normally would to read them.

Pointedly avoiding a certain post until I changed the title, which I have seen happen before with my stalkers.

Often spending hours on my blog, reading the same stuff over and over.  FIVE HOURS one morning.

Completely ignoring all my college memoir posts, even the ones about Phil apparently stalking me, even though “stalking” was their favorite subject.

Reading the new Richard/Tracy posts, but very little of the whole story (as if they already knew it all).

Who comes back whenever I block and unblock them.

Who downloaded a PDF of a post last week which called them out, called them obsessive.  There was absolutely no reason for a normal reader to PDF that post, and they have never PDF’d anything else.

Who keeps Richard’s erratic hours.

Who used my stalkers’ favorite search terms.

Including their favorite misspelling.

FOUR HOURS after reading a post which said that’s how I linked two IPs to Richard and Tracy.

(It’s a phrase which no one else has used, especially with the misspelling.)

Think I have reason to suspect one of my stalkers has relocated, even though the other is still using the Wisconsin IP?

Entirely possible: They’ve done this sort of thing twice that I know of, including the time Richard came to live with us while Tracy moved the kids in with her parents back where she grew up, a three-month separation while Richard looked for a job.

And they move a lot, from house to house, city to city and state to state, including from one region to another, so this is possible.


Ah, Richard or Tracy, I will block and unblock you at will, because it’s fun.

But don’t think I fear you anymore.

On the contrary, this is highly entertaining.  Bring it on.

(My apologies if I unintentionally offended a legitimate reader.  But I doubt it.)

Update 5/7: I keep finding more evidence in my stat logs that this is Richard.  It all adds up and makes sense…..If so, good riddance!

[Update 6/17/15: They both still live here in Fondy, but one of them could very easily have been down in that unexpected place for a while for some reason, such as internship, something related to their political connections, looking for a job in greener pastures again, or maybe Tracy had a school project there.  Or maybe they found a way to fake their location. 

But after I called them out with this post, and they read it, my obsessive visitor’s visits stopped dead.  They appeared again once or maybe twice later on, then never again.  Which would fit with the visitor moving back up to Fondy.]


The Richard and Tracy story is finished at last!

Now I can get back to my College Memoirs.  We’re starting to get into the fun part, past the abusive exes and into the fun of the second half of senior year: meeting weird people online (such as a psychic vampire), flame wars with a girl who was very much like Tracy, Celtic class, learning to play the tin whistle, SCA, meeting the Hubby….

Which also means slowing way down on my number of posts, maybe a few a week except when inspiration hits.  But I also plan to sticky-post old posts every day, so my new subscribers can check out my old stuff as well (and so I can fix formatting problems in pre-Wordpress posts 😛 ).

I also want to, over time, use my website the way I have used it ever since it was created in 2004 or 2005, and my blog in 2009: to showcase my writing in all its variety.  It’s not all about abuse blogging.  I have now combined my website with this blog into one big website: Just look at the page menu at the top of each page.  🙂  And look at that, my total hits are very close to 50,000!  🙂

I have all sorts of juvenilia that I hope to find and post, or at least describe if it’s lost.  I want my childhood imagination to be preserved, some of the stories possibly made into children’s books, because I fear it all being lost after I die.  I want to spark creativity again, start writing fictional stories again, not just book reviews, essays, memoirs and blogs.

And now that the story of Richard and Tracy is completely revised and out, I can do this again, because the cobwebs are cleared out of my mind, the chains of grief, anger and pain finally pushed out.

As for my stalkers, Richard and Tracy–We’ll see if I can still hold their attention now that their story is basically going to be old stuff stickied, rather than new stuff.  Of course, I see them going through my old stuff constantly lately, reading the same posts over and over again, so maybe it won’t matter to them.  LOL