From Cathy Young at TIME Magazine:
Traditional stereotypes have led to double standards that often cause women’s violence—especially against men—to be trivialized…..
Research showing that women are often aggressors in domestic violence has been causing controversy for almost 40 years,
ever since the 1975 National Family Violence Survey by sociologists Murray Straus and Richard Gelles of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire found that
women were just as likely as men to report hitting a spouse and men were just as likely as women to report getting hit.
The researchers initially assumed that, at least in cases of mutual violence, the women were defending themselves or retaliating.
But when subsequent surveys asked who struck first, it turned out that women were as likely as men to initiate violence—a finding confirmed by more than 200 studies of intimate violence.
In a 2010 review essay in the journal Partner Abuse, Straus concludes that women’s motives for domestic violence are often similar to men’s, ranging from anger to coercive control.
The Surprising Truth About Women and Violence
I know from personal experience that women can be violent aggressors to husbands, lovers, children–not just in self-defense. I witnessed Tracy hitting Richard, smacking the kids in the head, going nuts on the kids. And Richard told me that she would go into rages and punch him, while he struggled to keep from fighting back.
I also remember seeing girls hit boys back in school.
Women abusing men really does happen, even though some try to say it doesn’t. And it needs to stop, no matter if women or men are the aggressors.