We just got back from a cribbage tournament run by one of our friends here in town. Fun, fun, even though I don’t know how to play, and just spectate. But it’s social interaction, gets me out of the house. Because yes, even introverts need to do that, though not as often as for extroverts. 😉
The trouble is, Hubby keeps fearing that our friend is a narcissist, and believes he sees the same patterns as with Richard and me, only now Hubby is the target. But I knew this guy years ago, before we reconnected through Facebook several years ago; I don’t think he’s a narc. I think that Hubby is just nervous of it all happening again.
But it shows how abusive friendships can scar you. Even though Hubby wasn’t the target of the abuse, he still is jumpy, fearing that it’s happening all over again with somebody new.
Meanwhile, I keep looking for signs that it is NOT like that at all, because this is one of the people I opened up to about the Richard/Tracy drama, giving him their names, and I want to be able to trust this is a good, kind person.
I want to relax and enjoy the friendship, not keep this wall around myself that I built up back when everything blew up in July 2010.
This is not the real name of the forum, of course. This forum has somehow been connected to some of the most significant events of this past decade for me:
I met Richard and Tracy there, I met Todd there, I posted my religious questions there, Richard led me to Orthodoxy, Richard moved his family to my town, then Tracy abused me and Richard betrayed me, leading to a spiritual emptiness and depression.
So yeah, that’s some big stuff there–and it all goes back to the Forum, because that’s where I met Richard.
Anyway, the Forum has been up since 2002, has gone through several incarnations (one of which Richard screwed up as vengeance to Todd), and yet it’s still around.
There aren’t that many people left there, but we’re this core group that just doesn’t want to let go of each other or the Forum. Todd was going to shut it down, but discovered that it means too much to us, so it’s staying up.
Awwwwww, how sweet….