Why I don’t believe the trolls who latched onto me
This refers to the troll brigade who stalked me last year and, I’m told, still keeps an eye on me. And yes, I’ve seen them in my stats again lately. For background, see my previous posts here, here and here.
(They’ve come back here because their usual target has begun speaking about them to a guy who makes documentaries about stalkers, and I’ve been telling him about my experiences as well.)
Basically, because I made up my own mind about their usual target, they began stalking and harassing me to intimidate me into believing what THEY say I should believe.
I find their behavior to be very familiar, after years of studying narcissism, abuse, and various stories by bloggers. It’s the behavior of bullies. It’s the behavior of those who don’t want the truth of their own crimes to get out, so they tell everyone their victim is the real abuser.
It also fits with the mob mentality behavior found on many different forums: narc abuse, religious, political, social, etc. etc., where if you don’t agree with the group’s version of truth, you will be abused and maligned until you do.
The behavior I see from the trolls is NOT victim behavior. It’s that of narcs/abusers trying to force others to believe their version of the truth which maligns their target.
This is why I don’t believe them.
If the trolls’ “truth” is true, then they can let the facts stand on their own. Stalking and harassing is the behavior of someone who knows they’re wrong and is scared others will figure it out.
My narc ex-friends stalked ME because I told the truth, and tried to harass and intimidate me into retracting it.
It’s one thing to state your truth. It’s quite another thing to intimidate people into believing it. True victims have great courage when they dare to speak up; they don’t jeer at people who don’t believe, call them names, follow them around telling them to believe or else.
Narcissists and abusers–such as my ex-friends–will abuse you and then make fun of you for “fixating” on the abuse, say that you’re “not all there.”
But it’s one thing to deal with post-abuse trauma, for your thoughts to constantly replay the abuse, until you must get it out with words etc. It’s quite another thing to obsess and harass, stalking your target for years on end, which these trolls (and my ex-friends) have been doing.
What is the truth about their usual target? I’m not sure. There are reasons not to believe him, but also reasons to believe him. There are many reasons to give him the benefit of the doubt. In any case, if I err, that’s my mistake to make–and nobody else’s to dictate.
Comments are turned off to discourage the trolls.
UPDATE: In the two years since I posted this, I have seen proof that he is who he says he is, so the trolls can pound rocks.