Ever since I blocked the Unnamed Blogger (UB) [Lisette] last night, I’ve been getting steadily better. I still suffer from physical effects of last week’s anxiety, but I can concentrate better on other things now. I could swear this past week has been a blur; it feels like Tuesday was yesterday. It’s been a blur of fear and anxiety.
As I told my husband, it feels just like when my narc abusers found my blog and threatened me, all over again. The constant fear and dread of what will happen next, every move you make being watched. But since I blocked UB, UB has made no attempt to come back in through other means. So far.
Just knowing someone else can affect me like this, tells me UB is definitely a narcissist, turned into one by all that hatred of narcissists. Yet another reason not to let hate of the narc consume you.
I hope that will be the end of it now. I have so much on my plate: my dad’s health declining, house repairs, a cat who probably has cancer but we can’t afford the CAT scan to be sure ($1000!), church fundraiser, primary election, plus all the registration etc. for a child going back to school soon.
I don’t have time or space in my head for a new stalker.
It actually makes me feel a weird sort of fondness for my own pet stalkers, since at least they turned into just a little buzzing in the background. They’ve been well-behaved for years now. 😉
Update 10/3/21: These threats came, I believe, the day before (or maybe the day of?) my mom called to say my dad was dying very soon.
A recent post by PopeHat adds more legal legitimacy to what I did, and shows that Lisette had zero legal basis to threaten me. Now watch as I use Fair Use to quote him:
The United States, conscious of the dangers of libel tourism and pro-censorship legal systems, has enacted the SPEECH Act, 28 United States Code § 4102. The SPEECH Act prohibits American courts from recognizing foreign defamation judgments obtained under regimes that do not provide defendants with free speech protections as robust as those available under the First Amendment to the United States Constitution and the laws of the relevant states. American courts have found that there is “no meaningful dispute that the law applied by [Canadian courts] provides less protection of speech and press than First Amendment and [state] law. Canadian defamation law is derivative of the defamation law of the United Kingdom, which has long been substantially less protective of free speech.” (Trout Point Lodge, Ltd. v. Handshoe, 729 F.3d 481, 488 (5th Cir. 2013) (upholding refusal to recognize Canadian libel judgment under SPEECH Act). Any Canadian judgment you obtain against Mr. Loder will be worthless – both because Canadian courts lack personal jurisdiction over him (as also required by the SPEECH Act) and because his speech is clearly protected by American law.
While this case refers to libel, this concept of protecting all First Amendment Rights of Americans sued by foreigners, seems to apply across the board. I’m not a lawyer, but this is what I’m gleaning from here and here.