More information on hypnotism used by narcissists
Last night I clicked on one of the search terms used to find my blog, “what to do when ex narcissist smears you; speak up?” (My blog post “On smear campaigns…” had come up #7.)
One of the other links which came up was Lisa E. Scott’s “Narcspeak.” From her post:
Remember, Narcissists are not normal. They don’t think like we do. They don’t speak normally either.
Most of what they say is meant to confuse us, throw us off and manipulate us. They use backward-talk, projection, martyrdom and almost ALWAYS provoke us to respond in a manner they can then use against us. They are brilliant manipulators.
NarcSpeak is a huge red flag. If it happens more than once – you need to get out of the relationship – before you end up too brainwashed or too abused to think straight or function.
They often use NLP = NeuroLinguistic Programming – used in sales, marketing, politics and… seduction/ mind control.
Neuro-linguistic Programming Techniques
Entire websites are dedicated to teaching people how to manipulate and control others:
A GREAT GRAPHIC THAT EXPLAINS HOW NLP WORKS:
Scary, huh? It is critical you are aware of this tactic so you can recognize when it is occurring.
Then she gives a long list of various things a narc can say to you, and what they really mean, as a “narc decoder” that also demonstrates some of this hypnotic “programming.” I recommend checking it out; I’ve heard some of those things from narcissists, myself.
But the part about hypnotism and mind control especially interested me, because my ex-narc-best friend Richard used this crap on me. I still have a printout of an IRC conversation in which he explained it to me, so I know I’m not making it up.
(You have to check that every once in a while with narcs, because they gaslight you and try to make you think you’re imagining things. But I haven’t had any more e-mails like that from them, not since I reported that e-mail to the police. It’s on record, though I didn’t have the police take action.)
He told me he used it, when single, to get girls to dance with him, that he learned it from a guy who was a professional hypnotist. Richard also told me he used to be quite the womanizer, a dog with women, before he got married.
He told me he used it on me because I would occasionally put up blocks while we were talking, so he would break through them using hypnotism, and I would say whatever I didn’t want to tell him.
As you can see when you follow the links up above from Scott’s article, this kind of hypnotism uses eye tricks and words planted into conversation, so you don’t know it’s happening.
It’s the sort of thing used all the time by high pressure salesmen and marketing campaigns. The kind of hypnotism described to me by Richard, is in this same line. And I had no idea he’d been doing it.
So this quote from Scott’s article especially interested me:
Narcspeak: “I can change the tone of my voice and convince anyone of anything.”
Decoded: Truth! He’s admitting he hypnotizes, mind controls, uses NLP and does whatever he wants with people’s hearts and minds. And he’s proud of it (can we say SOCIOPATH?)