From Grace for my Heart by Dr. David Orrison:
Narcissistic relationships, whether in marriage, the family, at work, or wherever, are painful relationships. They cut deeply into our hearts.
The narcissist takes life from us, goodness and strength. The narcissist often causes us to doubt ourselves and do things we don’t want to do.
The narcissist messes with our heads and takes advantage of our own weaknesses. And, no, we are not okay.
Some women and men are suicidal in and after narcissistic relationships. I know pastors who left the ministry after dealing with narcissistic leaders.
Some adult children of narcissists can barely function in the world. Some look in fear on new relationships. Some live in various ways of hiding.
Some can’t seem to get it out of their heads. No, we are not okay.
…Sometimes the most healthy thing you can do is say, “No, I’m not okay.” It acknowledges the truth of what is happening in your heart. Living in truth may be the first step to becoming “more okay.”
…You see, we all carry around the broken part of our lives….We hold memories and bear scars and sometimes live with circumstances caused by the things we did and others did to us. That pain and sadness may never fully go away.