I’ve noticed quite a bit of hits from keywords referring to abuse. This is, unfortunately, a common problem, and people need to find help.
There are also many hits from keywords referring to narcissistic or borderline personality disorders, disorders which often lead to abusive behaviors.
So I will make a series of posts from my webpage on abuse, which gathers together links I have found most helpful. I have them arranged by category.
The first part is on the general topic of abuse. The last section of the webpage, my own personal abuse stories, has already been posted here.
Understanding the Abused
Love and Stockholm Syndrome: The Mystery of Loving an Abuser (Explaining why your friend/family member/co-worker stays with that man/woman, defends them, and even treats you badly for trying to help)
Why do you stay? (Traumatic Bonding And The Development Of The Stockholm Syndrome in Battered Women)
Top 7 Reasons People Stay in Abusive Marriages by Cathy Meyer, About.com Guide
From “Love and Stockholm Syndrome,” above:
Don’t feel the victim’s behavior is against the family or friends. It may be a form of survival or a way of lowering stress.
Victims may be very resistive, angry, and even hostile due to the complexity of their relationship with the controller/abuser. They may even curse, threaten, and accuse loved ones and friends.
This hostile defensiveness is actually self-protection in the relationship–an attempt to avoid “trouble”.
I can only hope this is true…otherwise I can’t explain how my “best friend” turned into an abuser himself….Abuse sends out hostile waves that must be stopped before they do even more damage.