I am not the only abuse blogger by far. There are many before me and will be many after me.
There are various categories, too: blogs about narcissists, blogs about sexual abusers, blogs about domestic violence or child abuse–and, quite often, speculations that the abusers are mentally ill or have personality disorders, such as narcissism or sociopathy.
Now there is an article about this phenomenon: Domestic violence victims are speaking out, handing out a dose of reality by Paula Carrasquillo. Some quotes:
Once too ashamed or guilt-ridden to tell even their closest friends and family members about their abuse, more and more victims and survivors of domestic violence and intimate partner abuse are coming forward with their stories.
But not to law enforcement, lawyers, and judges as you may expect. Instead, survivors and current victims dedicate websites, blogs, message boards, and even self-published books to their experiences.
The possible reasons are countless and may never be measured or determined, but a movement is evident. Just do a Google blog search for emotional abuse, domestic violence, and verbal abuse, and you will be bombarded by more than 94,000 results collectively.
Herself a survivor of domestic violence who blogs and has self-published a book about it, Paula (I’ll use her first name because it’s easier to spell) notes that many people don’t understand why anyone would write such a blog.
But she says this is the only outlet many victims have to be heard. They use it to find validation, support and a form of justice. Paula blogs to purge her anger and confusion.
Interestingly, I recently read the following on a blog by Joseph Burgo, Ph.D: “Most of the clients I’ve seen who demonstrated features of Borderline Personality Disorder or presented with Bipolar Disorder symptoms also displayed features of narcissistic behavior, often involving outbursts of rage.”
Dr. Burgo goes on to explain that an episode of rage, whether by a person with Bipolar Disorder, Borderline, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, is an intense form of blaming, one of the primary defenses against shame….
If someone is raging on you, you need to find the strength and courage to walk away. If they have Bipolar Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder, bless them and wish them the best.
How much more of your life and happiness are you willing to sacrifice for someone who refuses to face their own disordered mind? —Narcissists, Their Rages, and the Blame Game