Upsi, who runs a blog about her experiences with her narcissistic family, ended up much in the same boat as I am, when her family found her blog. I find comfort in reading about this, as she tried to go no contact but her family kept trying to argue with her over how they were portrayed.
[Update 8/24/14: Upsi’s blog no longer exists.]
From Upsi’s blog You Don’t Have to Dance for Them, the post “Wrong Tree“:
Sent today, after hearing back from FF on my first response: Dear Family Friend, I find it presumptuous that you hold yourself out as …
You think I’m a dupe? That I’m living in a victim role and should have moved on by now? Is it time for me to shut up on my own blog and put on a happy face?
You’ve got all the answers, huh? I’m the problem, I’ve got to change, everybody else is just fine and dandy?
Telling the truth does not mean that I am seeking revenge, and discovering myself is no more an intentional humiliation of my mother than needing distance from her is abandoning my family.
Did you two have a heated chat on Sunday and you just had to reach out to me to parrot her perspective? My mother can stop reading my blog any day. That’s her choice.
I am leaving her alone, it is she who won’t leave me alone. It is she who wants me to change, wants me to accept her bad behavior.