Anne Lamott and others on telling your abuse story

You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better. —tweet from Anne Lamott, April 23, 2012.

A blog based on this quote, by Sophia Dembling.

“Note to Narcissists~ If you think you recognize yourself in something I write, then YOU owe somebody an apology. I don’t owe YOU one. It’s not MY fault if your own behavior embarrasses you.

I never identify the lowlifes I’m writing about, and if you behave like that, not to mention being arrogant and idiotic enough to actually think YOU are the star of something I write, then you SHOULD be ashamed of yourself.

So quit whining and start apologizing for acting like a jackass and hurting people who love you.” ~Rev. Renee Pitelli, originally posted on, but now removed

Now a couple of other bloggers have been “found” by the subjects of their abuse blogs.  And they’re not backing down, either.  They’re posting things just for the benefit of their narcissists, just as I do.  And not taking them overly seriously.  In fact, one is laughing at her blog stalker.

As Paula wrote on one of her blogs:

I am 100% supportive of outing these fools by name. Unfortunately, there are many who don’t understand that outing them is a direct consequence and they should deal with it. They don’t.

Instead, they seek low-life attorneys willing to send cease and desist letters to scare us into thinking we’re committing a crime.

We’re not!! It’s called freedom of speech.

If they think we’re lying and hope to sue us for defamation, libel, or slander, they need to prove that in court.

The burden in U.S. courts is on the complainant, not the defender. I believe it is opposite in some countries, including Canada and the UK. 🙂

…Not that I’ll be doing this.  No, that information is for my friends, not the Net.

Also see: Anne Lamott: We stuffed scary feelings down, and they made us insane