Now that 45 is president, he oh-so-much reminds people of things we don’t want to remember so we numb ourselves. Any painful memory can be triggered by 45. Memories of trust betrayed; memories of scapegoating, chaos, and a distortion of truth so disorienting you can’t trust your own mind. Memories of being lied to and cheated on and hurt by someone you cared about but could not get away from. We can’t go No Contact with 45 any more than children can avoid an abusive parent. Instead, we look for ways to appease political tyrants—just like children appease tyrannical parents. That’s how the narcissistic relationship felt as a kid and that’s how it feels as an adult; however, our feelings aren’t facts we’re reminded; and we aren’t kids anymore, we tell ourselves. We need to find ways to prevent ourselves from slipping into unhealthy behaviors like suppressing thoughts and numbing feelings—a useful tactic for children, a silencing and powerless tactic for adults. We may feel better in the short term but we are not safe. Speaking thoughtfully and honestly has never been more imperative than it is now.
More from Wordfence analyzing the information provided about the Russian hacks:
On Friday evening the Department of Homeland Security released a report [PDF link] containing updated and broader analysis of Russian civilian and military intelligence organization’s attempts to interfere with the 2016 US election. This Wordfence report is an analysis of the new ‘Enhanced Grizzly Steppe Report’ and the data it includes. We show that one of the websites used in […]
So much is going on that I can barely keep up. My friend Lucky Otter calls it hypervigilance, says that the abuse is now happening on a national scale…. We have the flying monkeys in large numbers….
I’m starting to burn out on news from the White House. It’s nonstop crapstorm every day. I spend hours just checking news feeds on Twitter. But I keep hearing that we should all be vigilant so we can protest through various channels and keep our voices heard. But I do have other things to do….
Then I watch movies of the White Rose Society, and hear how Germans didn’t do enough to stop the Nazis, for various reasons. We can keep the same thing from happening here, and it looks like we just might do so–but not if we stop watching. But what about the other things I need to do?
I’m following not just American newspapers, but German and British ones as well, to get more global perspectives. Der Spiegel is about to publish the English version of a scathing series on Trump. That’s the magazine which also put a controversial picture on the front cover, of Trump beheading the Statue of Liberty.
It’s all maddening. Those of us who have experienced narc abuse and other kinds of abuse, we can recognize what’s going on, but the flying monkeys call us “libtards” and laugh at us.
I also see the exact same complaints coming at US that we made towards the Republicans during the Obama administration, yet they don’t even seem to notice the hypocrisy.
Yet Obama–while it’s common and possible for any President to have narcissist traits–was not the full-blown NPD/sociopath now sitting in the White House.
We get accused of wanting the president to fail, and oh, how disgusting that is.
Hello, the Republicans came out and SAID they wanted Obama to fail. They obstructed every single thing he tried to do.
We are afraid of what will happen if Trump fails. Nobody wants the country to fall apart.
I see from European papers just how frightened people are overseas, because we don’t just affect our own country. Our actions affect the world.
The actions of Trump in the past couple of weeks are so frightening that even Republicans are complaining. What does that tell you? A Republican judge blocked the immigration ban.
I’ve had a soft spot for McCain ever since the 2000 election, when he should’ve been the one nominated, not Bush. McCain would never have approved torture. I also love how McCain used to work with Feingold to make positive changes.
I wish McCain were our president right now.
But I do have hope, as I see forces aligning to keep Trump from causing too much damage: protests, donations, judges, even White House officials and Congress members, leaders of other countries, and yes, our Constitution with its checks and balances. Maybe he will be removed from power because of his obvious mental instability.
Of course, Pence is next in line and I’m not happy about that, but it seems like he’d be less of a threat to the well-being of our country. Not because of his policies–blech–but by behaving more Presidential. Even Bush behaved better than this, and I despised Bush.
Too much is happening to blog about it every time something happens. I also don’t want to alienate readers. But if you wish, you can follow my Twitter, where I’ve been getting much more political. Mostly retweets, but of things I see that I feel are important.
My abuse-blogger friends are writing about feeling triggered by the state of the country right now. They recognize what’s going on, are quite familiar with narcissists, flying monkeys, gaslighting, and the like. My experience with abusers was short-lived compared to theirs, since they tend to be children of narcissists.
I’ll point you to my friend Lucky Otter, who wrote a post here. The post and especially its comments have been helpful. She has written several other posts on the topic as well.
Now we’re getting something better than the hacking info that sounded like any other hacker on the Net:
Classified documents presented last week to President Obama and President-elect Trump included allegations that Russian operatives claim to have compromising personal and financial information about Mr. Trump, multiple US officials with direct knowledge of the briefings tell CNN.
These senior intelligence officials also included the synopsis to demonstrate that Russia had compiled information potentially harmful to both political parties, but only released information damaging to Hillary Clinton and Democrats. This synopsis was not an official part of the report from the intelligence community case about Russian hacks, but some officials said it augmented the evidence that Moscow intended to harm Clinton’s candidacy and help Trump’s, several officials with knowledge of the briefings tell CNN.
The two-page synopsis also included allegations that there was a continuing exchange of information during the campaign between Trump surrogates and intermediaries for the Russian government, according to two national security officials.
Sources tell CNN that these same allegations about communications between the Trump campaign and the Russians, mentioned in classified briefings for congressional leaders last year, prompted then-Senate Democratic Leader Harry Reid to send a letter to FBI Director Comey in October, in which he wrote, “It has become clear that you possess explosive information about close ties and coordination between Donald Trump, his top advisors, and the Russian government — a foreign interest openly hostile to the United States.”
Thanks to Wordfence, I was skeptical of a news report on the Russians hacking a Vermont utility company. And turns out it was a non-issue after all, totally overblown, just run-of-the-mill hacking. Glenn Greenwald writes in Russia Hysteria Infects WashPost Again: False Story About Hacking U.S. Electric Grid:
So the key scary claim of the Post story — that Russian hackers had penetrated the U.S. electric grid — was false. All the alarmist tough-guy statements issued by political officials who believed the Post’s claim were based on fiction.
Even worse, there is zero evidence that Russian hackers were even responsible for the implanting of this malware on this single laptop. The fact that malware is “Russian-made” does not mean that only Russians can use it; indeed, like a lot of malware, it can be purchased (as Jeffrey Carr has pointed out in the DNC hacking context, assuming that Russian-made malware must have been used by Russians is as irrational as finding a Russian-made Kalishnikov AKM rifle at a crime scene and assuming the killer must be Russian).
Few things are more dangerous to the journalistic function than groupthink, and few instruments have been invented that foster and reinforce groupthink like social media, particularly Twitter, the platform most used by journalists. That’s a phenomenon that merits far more study, but examples like this one highlight the dynamic.
In this case, the effect is a constant ratcheting up of tensions between two nuclear-armed powers whose nuclear systems are still on hair-trigger alert and capable of catastrophic responses based on misunderstanding and misperception. Democrats and their media allies are rightly alarmed about the potential dangers of Trump’s bellicose posture toward China, but remarkably and recklessly indifferent to the dangers of what they themselves are doing here.
Russia may indeed be carrying out illicit activities against us–Putin is hardly an angel–but how can we be sure if even the media is crying wolf? Republicans and Democrats in Congress are crying for Putin’s head, while we the people watch and wonder if we’re going to end up in that long-feared nuclear war after all.
Wordfence has published an update and FAQ on the supposed hacking evidence. Sure enough, their earlier report led to media attention, as they explain in their update. They also write that the FBI/DHS report does NOT prove the Russians hacked the election.
Wordfence explains their process of investigating the information in the FBI/DHS report. They write,
We went into Polestar which is a Wordfence proprietary big-data platform that we have developed to aggregate and mine a large number of attacks from a range of sources. We used the Yara signature to try to determine if anyone has attacked a WordPress site using this malware. At this point we didn’t know what it was or if it was even used against WordPress.
Jackpot! We had captured the entire 20k malware sample!
We extracted the malware sample from Polestar and I handed it to Rob who started analysis on the sample. We divided the work and I went off and analyzed the IP addresses that DHS/FBI had provided in Grizzly Steppe.
This information helped them to find all the information they needed to track down the malware and where it came from.
The full Wordfence update/FAQ is here:
US Intelligence has to have better evidence than this for all the saber-rattling we’ve been seeing the past several weeks. I certainly hope it does, that there is highly classified info which includes smoking guns.
Otherwise, we could end up with something worse than Iraq: Remember how we were assured that Iraq had weapons of mass destruction that justified going in? Remember how cocky we were, sure that we’d go in, get Saddam, get the WMDs, and get out? Remember what really happened?
Yeah. Putin’s a creep but let’s keep the nukes under lock and key. And avoid a war in the country that entangled both Napoleon and Hitler. Getting entangled in Russia would be even worse than what happened in Iraq. Some of us have much greater hopes for our babies than that they get sent off to die for a mistake. Or that we see those mushroom clouds on the horizon.