Reblog: How narcissistic abuse prepared us to fight against what is happening right now. | Lucky Otters Haven

I don’t think there’s any coincidence that the great army of us who discovered that our own brokenness was a result of narcissistic abuse came about a mere ten or twenty years before this conscienceless, sociopathic cabal of self serving narcissists, con artists, criminals, and their flying monkeys (enablers and sycophants) rose to take power over our nation and maybe the world. I truly believe that as painful and unfair as our suffering was, if we were able to recognize it for what it was and escape from it, we are the ones with the right sort of training and emotional resilience to lead the fight against the darkness that is threatening to destroy the world. It’s a kind of holy war, but it has nothing to do with religion. It has to do with good versus evil, and because we got to see firsthand in our own families of origin (or our abusive marriages or other close relationships) how damaging and pernicious this type of evil can be, we have a huge advantage over most of seeing through to the truth of things (and where there is truth, there is goodness and justice).

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Special Counsel: Checks and Balances Working!

“I think it in one sense it is bad news for Trump and it is good news for people who want a robust investigation because Mueller is definitely a straight shooter and he has a good reputation as an FBI director,” said Jens David Ohlin, a Cornell University law professor. “It means that the investigation goes on. It is not going to be stopped and it also means that the Deputy Attorney General doesn’t want to do Trump’s bidding on this.”

The checks and balances of democracy, in other words, hold.

Mueller’s arrival on the scene represents another learning experience for a President determined to wield wide executive power but who has been thwarted by checks built into the nation’s political infrastructure, for example, the courts that blocked his travel ban for people from Muslim nations.

–CNN article, Now it’s up to the special counsel, 5/18/17

Okay, who had six months in the pool?  You just might win.  Or, more importantly, the American people win when the system set up by the Founding Fathers protects us from tyranny.

And, of course, Trump takes to Twitter to proclaim himself the victim.  Yet more narcissistic behavior from this “president” who never should’ve made the nomination, let alone the election.  Does he really think that anybody–other than his core group of supporters–takes him seriously?

He gets dumbed-down intel reports which deliberately use his name to hold his attention.  His aides are afraid he’ll screw up while meeting with Middle Eastern leaders, because he doesn’t understand the intricacies of the politics there.  (Source here.)

Meanwhile, he uses the authoritarian tactic of accusing the press of falsehood, so the people will put their trust in him instead–taking away our constitutional check on presidential power, a free, unencumbered press.  See Historian Timothy Snyder: “It’s pretty much inevitable” that Trump will try to stage a coup and overthrow democracy.  Also below, as Snyder explains that first you lie, then you claim all your opponents/press are lying, then the people don’t know what the truth is, and the game is over:

I’m still not sure if Trump is a buffoon who’s so narcissistic that he stumbles into behaving like an authoritarian leader because he keeps “suffering” narcissistic injuries and lashes out…or if he’s purposely trying to become an evil dictator.

I am up to nearly page 300 of Rise and Fall of the Third Reich, however, and note that Hitler was much smarter than Trump.  Hitler would not have needed dumbed-down intel reports, for example.  He also lived/breathed politics since his youth, and had long-term plans for carrying out his agenda and taking over the country.

I get the impression that Trump was–like many people–saying, “If I were president I would do such-and-such,” you know, armchair presidenting.  And didn’t realize that being President is not at all the same as running a business, or as being a king.  That you don’t suddenly have everybody in the country jumping to do your bidding no matter what, and that it’s not just about knowing top secrets or getting awesome chocolate cakes or the best seat.  That it’s not about giving your family cool positions, nor is your family running the country now like some dynasty.  That if you screw up, somebody could actually die.

Maybe next election, people will stop decrying “career politicians” and recognize that some political experience and knowledge in a president is crucial!

As for Mike Pence taking over–I’m ambivalent about that.  On the one hand, yeah, he could become the next Scott Walker and screw over the country.  But then again, at least he seems to be a grownup.  I don’t think he’d be egging on North Korea into a nuclear war.  I’m impressed by how he treated this autistic kid who got bopped in the nose.  (Apparently now people on FOX are calling this poor kid a “snowflake” for standing up for himself.  Geez, people, he’s 8, and learning how to be assertive despite challenges, not a “snowflake”!  What bullies, picking on an 8-year-old!)




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GOP Power Grab

Make no mistake, the voters see what you’re doing.  It should’ve been Merrick Garland in that Supreme Court seat.

The GOP has been slowly and steadily taking control for years now.  Walker has ruined Wisconsin and made it so Democrats no longer get a say, while corruption runs rampant, with compromised judges unwilling to stop it.  Walker drove friends and family apart, drove away teachers, and as for driving, the potholes around here make bike-riding treacherous.

Now they’re doing it nationally.  I hoped that when Walker lost the nomination for President, we would be safe from a President doing to the nation what Walker did to Wisconsin, but no.

The trouble is, for far too long, certain political groups (such as the Tea Party) have been insisting that “compromise” is a bad word, somehow evil.  So instead of working with the other side, the GOP just says “screw you” and pushes whatever it wants, no matter how extreme, and the Democrats can’t stop them.

Sometimes I wish I could move to Germany.



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Reblog: The Narcissistic Continuum: A Traumatic Election: Emotional Overwhelm & Voice

Now that 45 is president, he oh-so-much reminds people of things we don’t want to remember so we numb ourselves. Any painful memory can be triggered by 45. Memories of trust betrayed; memories of scapegoating, chaos, and a distortion of truth so disorienting you can’t trust your own mind. Memories of being lied to and cheated on and hurt by someone you cared about but could not get away from. We can’t go No Contact with 45 any more than children can avoid an abusive parent. Instead, we look for ways to appease political tyrants—just like children appease tyrannical parents. That’s how the narcissistic relationship felt as a kid and that’s how it feels as an adult; however, our feelings aren’t facts we’re reminded; and we aren’t kids anymore, we tell ourselves. We need to find ways to prevent ourselves from slipping into unhealthy behaviors like suppressing thoughts and numbing feelings—a useful tactic for children, a silencing and powerless tactic for adults. We may feel better in the short term but we are not safe. Speaking thoughtfully and honestly has never been more imperative than it is now.

Source: The Narcissistic Continuum: A Traumatic Election: Emotional Overwhelm & Voice

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Reblog: WordPress Used as Command and Control Server in 2016 Election Hack

More from Wordfence analyzing the information provided about the Russian hacks:

On Friday evening the Department of Homeland Security released a report [PDF link] containing updated and broader analysis of Russian civilian and military intelligence organization’s attempts to interfere with the 2016 US election. This Wordfence report is an analysis of the new ‘Enhanced Grizzly Steppe Report’ and the data it includes. We show that one of the websites used in […]

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Re: The current political situation

So much is going on that I can barely keep up.  My friend Lucky Otter calls it hypervigilance, says that the abuse is now happening on a national scale…. We have the flying monkeys in large numbers….

I’m starting to burn out on news from the White House.  It’s nonstop crapstorm every day.  I spend hours just checking news feeds on Twitter. But I keep hearing that we should all be vigilant so we can protest through various channels and keep our voices heard.  But I do have other things to do….

Then I watch movies of the White Rose Society, and hear how Germans didn’t do enough to stop the Nazis, for various reasons.  We can keep the same thing from happening here, and it looks like we just might do so–but not if we stop watching.  But what about the other things I need to do?

I’m following not just American newspapers, but German and British ones as well, to get more global perspectives.  Der Spiegel is about to publish the English version of a scathing series on Trump.  That’s the magazine which also put a controversial picture on the front cover, of Trump beheading the Statue of Liberty.

It’s all maddening.  Those of us who have experienced narc abuse and other kinds of abuse, we can recognize what’s going on, but the flying monkeys call us “libtards” and laugh at us.

I also see the exact same complaints coming at US that we made towards the Republicans during the Obama administration, yet they don’t even seem to notice the hypocrisy.

Yet Obama–while it’s common and possible for any President to have narcissist traits–was not the full-blown NPD/sociopath now sitting in the White House.

We get accused of wanting the president to fail, and oh, how disgusting that is.

Hello, the Republicans came out and SAID they wanted Obama to fail.  They obstructed every single thing he tried to do.

We are afraid of what will happen if Trump fails.  Nobody wants the country to fall apart.

I see from European papers just how frightened people are overseas, because we don’t just affect our own country.  Our actions affect the world.

The actions of Trump in the past couple of weeks are so frightening that even Republicans are complaining.  What does that tell you?  A Republican judge blocked the immigration ban.

I’ve had a soft spot for McCain ever since the 2000 election, when he should’ve been the one nominated, not Bush.  McCain would never have approved torture.  I also love how McCain used to work with Feingold to make positive changes.

I wish McCain were our president right now.

But I do have hope, as I see forces aligning to keep Trump from causing too much damage: protests, donations, judges, even White House officials and Congress members, leaders of other countries, and yes, our Constitution with its checks and balances.  Maybe he will be removed from power because of his obvious mental instability.

Of course, Pence is next in line and I’m not happy about that, but it seems like he’d be less of a threat to the well-being of our country.  Not because of his policies–blech–but by behaving more Presidential.  Even Bush behaved better than this, and I despised Bush.

Too much is happening to blog about it every time something happens.  I also don’t want to alienate readers.  But if you wish, you can follow my Twitter, where I’ve been getting much more political.  Mostly retweets, but of things I see that I feel are important.

My abuse-blogger friends are writing about feeling triggered by the state of the country right now.  They recognize what’s going on, are quite familiar with narcissists, flying monkeys, gaslighting, and the like.  My experience with abusers was short-lived compared to theirs, since they tend to be children of narcissists.

I’ll point you to my friend Lucky Otter, who wrote a post here.  The post and especially its comments have been helpful.  She has written several other posts on the topic as well.





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